How to Talk to Parents Who Don’t Listen
Have you ever tried talking to your parents, and it’s like they’re stubborn and choose not to hear you? You could be speaking facts, from the heart, but it’s like talking to a wall. Yeah, I’ve been there. It’s frustrating, exhausting, and honestly, it makes you want to give up. But don’t. Because in this blog, I’m going to show you how to talk to parents who won’t listen—without yelling, begging, or giving up your dignity.
1. Stay Consistent (Even When They Blow Up)
Right now, I’m dealing with this exact situation with my daughter. She’s been begging for a pet for over a year. We’ve said no dozens of times because it doesn’t fit into our lifestyle at the moment. But she hasn’t stopped. She reminds us regularly—sometimes even when we’re clearly frustrated. She’s consistent and fearless, even when we’re irritated.
And guess what? That level of fearless persistence starts to shift the conversation. It could be wanting them to eat healthier, move to a different place, or change certain habits. When someone wants something badly enough that they’ll keep bringing it up without getting disrespectful, it sticks in your mind. Parents might lose their cool, but if you stay calm and steady, over time, they just might come around. Why? It’s because they love you unconditionally.
Pro tip: Timing matters. Don’t bring up your big ask when they’re stressed or distracted. Wait for the right moment, then calmly remind them again.
2. Build a Support Squad
Sometimes, your voice isn’t enough—but that doesn’t mean the conversation is over. Get others on your side. Is there a sibling, aunt, uncle, or even a family friend who understands where you’re coming from? Share your perspective with them, and if they agree, they might help advocate for you when you’re not in the room.
Parents often take ideas more seriously when they hear it from more than one trusted voice.
3. Listen First, Then Speak
This might sting a little, but ask yourself: Have you been listening to them? Sometimes the reason they won’t listen is because they feel like you don’t understand where they’re coming from.
If something matters to you, show that you care enough to ask why they feel the way they do. Maybe their reasons make more sense than you thought. Or maybe just showing that you're open to hearing them out earns you the respect you need to be taken seriously.
Listening goes both ways. If you start by understanding them, they may be more willing to understand you.
Final Thoughts
Getting parents to listen isn’t about yelling louder—it’s about being patient, persistent, and emotionally smart. You don’t need to agree on everything. But if you show that you’re respectful, thoughtful, and genuinely care about their perspective too, you’ve already taken a big step toward being heard.
